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Single black women typically do not seek outside help for their black dating for much the same reason that
men will not ask for directions. They hate not being able to figure something out on their own. Men,
by nature, are trained to be independent and self sufficient. They would rather learn from doing than from discussing. Think about this the next time your watching children’s at a playground. The boys are rarely sitting around talking.
They are doing something active. The african american singles on the other hand spend time walking around chatting or hanging
out and talking. Do you know any black girls who love to talk on the phone with their best friend? It
is just not in their nature. I know this may sound stereotypical, but it is a general rule. Of course there are always exceptions.
On top of this, the typical single african american women learns to tune out the cries for more involvement
until the requests get really serious. Even then he will usually just change a few things for a little while to get the pressure
off, and then gradually slip back into old habits. The reason the change does not last is because he hasn’t
really understood the reason for the change in the first place. He reacts to the pressure by switching into solve mode. So what does a frustrated, at wits end, black singles do? You still love him and you do not want a divorce. One of the major african american dating patterns is that one of the spouses is pursuing and trying to get closer to
the other. This usually results in a polarization effect where the one being pursued actually moves away. This
is called a closeness distance conflict. It usually occurs when African american girls desires more intimacy and closeness,
usually the wife, and the other, usually the husband, desires to maintain an optimal amount of distance. This
is essentially simply a difference in the definition of an ideal relationship. But instead of seeing this as being just a
difference of definitions one beautiful african american ladies starts to want to eradicate this difference and sees
it as a major problem. .
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